5 Golden Rules for Relationship Gift-Giving
Giving and receiving presents is a wonderful experience, but sometimes it can be quite challenging too. Giving your other half a gift in a relationship, whether that relationship is new or old, can sometimes feel like you’re being put under a microscope. This is your opportunity to show your other half how much you care about them, and something as simple as choosing the wrong colour, or wrapping an item the wrong way could make the wrong impression.
With so much pressure riding on every gift you have to give to the person you love most, it’s easy to get nervous. Fortunately, there are some golden rules you can keep in mind to hopefully keep you on the right track.
Consider Your Audience
First things first, you need to think carefully about who you’re buying this gift for. This might sound obvious, but when you’ve been in a relationship for a while, you might find that you get into the habit of giving the same gift every year without thinking. If you’re in a new relationship, then you might find yourself accidentally buying something that you would like to receive, rather than considering the needs of the other person.
Take the time to write a list of all your partner’s likes and dislikes before you start looking for presents. This is your chance to really dive into everything you know about that person and find sources of inspiration in the process.
Consider Setting Ground Rules
There’s nothing worse than assuming you and your partner are going to spend the same amount of cash on each other for a gift exchange, only to find out that they obviously spent a lot more. If you’re feeling nervous that you might underwhelm your other half because you don’t have a lot of cash to spend, consider setting some ground rules for how much each of you can splash out.
Although you might not mind knowing that the other person in the relationship can spend a little more on you, this can lead to a weird balance between you and your partner over time. Having the option to set a budget might reduce the risk of arguments.
The Thought Always Counts
Having an idea of how much each of you are going to spend on your gift is a good way to avoid an unbalanced gift exchange. However, it’s also important to remember that money isn’t everything. Although you might think that it’s more impressive to buy your partner something that they know you’ll have spent a small fortune on, what they’ll really be looking for is evidence that you understand them and know what they love.
The more thought and attention you can put into your gift, the better. This could even mean that you just add some little extras to the gift before you give it, like wrapping it carefully with a paper you know your partner will love and adding a hand-written note.
Practice Your Response
In a relationship gift exchange, the response of the other person is absolutely essential. It’s important to make sure that you’ve tailored your response to suit the situation. That means that you should never allow yourself to look disappointed or unhappy. Even if you don’t think the gift was a very good choice for you, there’s a good chance that you don’t know how much care and thought went into choosing it.
Make sure that you always respond with love and happiness and thank the other person for the time they’ve put into choosing the gift for you. If you’re not sure how else to respond, you can always start by asking them what caused them to pick that particular gift as the one for you.
Learn from Each Experience
Finally, with a little luck, your relationship should last for a while, which means that you’ll have a lot of opportunities to learn from every gift-giving experience. Make sure you pay attention to the kind of gifts that your other half responds best to and make notes if you have to, so you have inspiration for future presents. Don’t forget to pay extra close attention to the stories that your other half tells you about the present, and how he or she makes the choice of what to buy.
This will give you a good insight into what the most important person in your life thinks is most important to consider when gift-giving. It might also help you to make better decisions in the future.