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Encouraging Your Kids to Open Up About School

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Getting your child to chat to you about school is a great challenge for many parents. You ask them how their day was and they answer with one word: “fine”. You ask them what they learnt and they “can’t remember”. There are strategies you can use to get your kids to open up and eventually it will become natural to them. Here are some tips from an independent school in London.

How to chat about your child’s day at school.

Always ask open and non-judgemental questions like “What was the best thing you did at school today?” rather than “Did you have a good day?”. Questions that can be answered with a yes or a no will not encourage your child to talk. 

Try not to rush or force your child into talking about school. They might not want to speak about it the minute you pick them up so give them some space for a while before you dive into a million questions. 

Parent and Children sitting on a bench talking about school.
Photo by Benjamin Manley on Unsplash

When your child does eventually open up, you should refrain from interrupting when your child finally starts to open up. They need to be able to feel like they can talk freely and even vent about their school life and if you jump in with your advice before they’ve had chance to finish, they will feel incompetent. Besides, giving them chance to work through how they’re feeling without your help will allow them to develop a level of confidence. 

Make yourself available to your child each day and be sure to connect with them on a one-to-one basis. Regular opportunities for you to be together will lead to increased communication and a bond that will ensure your child is comfortable opening up. Build this special one-to-one time into your routine. 

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